I'm sitting with feelings of disappointment today. I trusted someone. My trust was violated. And it hurts.
I have a bad habit of holding on to painful emotions as a way to punish myself for not doing things the "right" way or well enough, for not knowing better or being naive. Thankfully, I've been doing a lot of work around managing emotions in a healthy way. I'm busting through that old way of being. This is how:
1. Acknowledge and Accept
When I am sense intense emotion, I first acknowledge and accept it. I no longer make myself wrong for feeling anger, frustration, or disappointment. I notice the feeling, then I feel it without judgement or blame to the best of my ability; this is a powerful practice in itself. Remember, it's ok to feel however you feel whenever you feel it.
2. Express Authentically and Appropriately
Sometimes I laugh.
Sometimes I cry.
Sometimes my face turns so red it appears as though my head might pop.
I remind myself I am safe to express in a loving way, and I create space for that. I don't make myself wrong for shedding tears, turning red, or struggling through a nervous laugh. I express myself in whatever way is most authentic, and I decide what's appropriate. Sometimes I'm awesome at this authentic expression thing. Others, not so much...
2. Let Go
Once I've allowed those feelings to come up and out, I am left with two choices: continue feeling the painful emotion, or let it go. Humans tend to become "attached" to their feelings to our own detriment, nonetheless. We continue to think the thoughts that inevitably conjure the negative feelings associated with the overwhelming experience. We tell ourselves stories (colored by limiting subconscious beliefs) about those thoughts by judging, poking and prodding them. These "stories" go something like this, "I don't matter, I don't deserve better, I am not good enough." We react to those stories instead of actual circumstances, which perpetuates the negative emotional response. The better option is to let go.
3. Practice Presence
Once I decide I'm ready to release an emotion, I begin focusing on the present moment. This is a choice! When we keep our minds and energy in the now, we cannot possibly ruminate over the past, nor can we project into the future. Staying present is a VERY effective way to let go of anxiety, as such a practice quickly and clearly demonstrates that 99% of the time, we are safe in the present moment; thus, there is nothing to worry about. Practice presence!!
4. Focus on Solutions
Once I'm effectively refocused in the here and now, I begin reaching for better feeling thoughts. I imagine positive outcomes and solutions, even though it is my natural inclination to crawl around in "Why did this happen to me?" or "Why did so-and-so do this to me?" (AKA assume victim role) I've come to realize that people don't do things to me; they make choices based on their feelings about a desired outcome.
Our choices impact others, and unfortunately, not everyone is sensitive to the truth of this. Sometimes people make choices that don't live up to MY expectations or standards. Sometimes they choose to lie; they betray my trust, and this is disappointing. In the end, those are THEIR choices... I get to choose how to respond. And I'm learning that letting go is often the best choice for me. Once I let go of the hurt, I can begin moving forward.
Remember, holding on holds us in place, practice letting go instead.
"While a thorough explanation of these different responses is beyond the scope of this article, know that each response has its own unique biological expression, and access to each response is related to a corresponding state of consciousness."
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"Each of us has many, many maps in our head, which can be divided into two main categories: maps of the way things are, or realities, and maps of the way things should be, or values. We interpret everything we experience through these mental maps. We seldom question their accuracy; we’re usually even unaware that we have them. We simply assume that the way we see things is the way they really are or the way they should be... our attitudes and behaviors grow out of those assumptions. The way we see things is the source of the way we think and the way we act... Two people can see the same thing, disagree, and yet both be right."
~Stephen Covey, Author of "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People"
Are you ready to move beyond the beliefs that
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letting go infinitely easier.
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"There is no condition so severe that you cannot reverse it by choosing different thoughts. However, choosing different thoughts requires FOCUS and PRACTICE.
IF you continue to focus as you have been, to think as you have been, and to believe as you have been, then nothing in your experience will change."
#Hypnosis makes it infinitely easier to choose different thoughts...
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If you are ready to begin your journey toward ACCEPTANCE, listen to this recording every day for the next three weeks. Repetition is the mother of all learning; listening daily will reinforce the suggestions. You can use your phone or computer, and even download the session.
Your job is to relax and focus on the sound of my voice. If you find your mind is wandering, just bring your attention back to my voice. Use your imagination, too… when I invite you to sense, feel and experience things, really cultivate the feelings associated with the imagery.
I’d really appreciate your feedback, especially from those who have been hypnotized before. Thank you and ENJOY!
1. Count your blessings. Every. Day.
2. Only compare yourself to those worse off than you. (I suggest we don't compare at all....)
3.Tell yourself a positive story about the challenges in your life. Regression #hypnotherapy can actually help you rewrite your personal history...
(article from Time magazine)
It all begins with thought.
#Hypnotherapy helps people align their conscious (wants) and subconscious minds (beliefs). When your thoughts, wishes and desires are aligned with your beliefs, things start to happen! Think deliberately to begin creating the next best version of you.